Relationship counselling most commonly occurs between partners, though it is not unusual for friends and family members to see the need for a counsellor to assist them with various conflicts and differences.
Patrick’s approach to relationship counselling has been heavily influenced by his work as a family mediator. Also the work by John/Julie Gottman and David Schnarch have impacted on his methodology.
During the first session Patrick will request from each of the clients their opinions regarding the main issues preventing them from being in a harmonious relationship with each other. This session is usually followed up with Patrick seeing each party separately.
Normally an exploration regarding these issues follows. Allied to this, Patrick will assist the clients in appreciating the manner in which they attempt to solve their differences.
Often the communication styles and strategies employed do not facilitate amicable solutions to the issues involved. If need be Patrick will attempt to shed light on this and also assist each party in appreciating the underlying motivations and influences which motivate themselves and the other party(s).
For the most part, Patrick prefers to see all involved together. At times Patrick or the client(s) may see value in a private session between one party and Patrick. Patrick is amenable to this idea, though he will generally encourage the person involved to share the material discussed.
Sessions with Patrick and just a single client is often useful if the conflict is between an adult(s) and a child or an adult(s) and adolescent.
It is not rare, in relation to relationship counselling, that only one individual wishes to pursue assistance from a third party. In these situations, the benefits for the client can include perspective, empowerment and strategy.
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