On a recent holiday my son, wife and one of my daughters Marguerite were travelling on the M1 along the northern coast of New South Wales. Margs hooked up the Bluetooth to her phone so that we could enjoy listening to some oldies that she had been given.
After the Pina Colada song had finished I asked Margs if she knew what the song was really about, she replied, “Isn’t it about a couple of people just getting drunk on pina colada?” I explained that it was really about a chap who was bored in his relationship and so decided to look in the personal columns to meet someone interesting. He then responded to an ad which unbeknown to him was submitted by his partner. He later met her in a bar and then realised that he didn’t really know her very well at all!
I have met people who admitted to marrying someone with whom they had never really had a deep conversation, saying that they committed to the relationship because they thought they were in love.
Escape – Lyrics
“I was tired of my lady, we’d been together too long,
like a worn out recording, of a favourite song,
in the personals there was a letter I read,
‘If you like pina colada, and getting caught in the rain,
if you’re not into yoga, if you have half a brain…’
I got to meet you tomorrow at a bar called O’Malley’s,
where we will plan our escape…
I never knew you liked Pina colada and getting caught in the rain
and the feel of the ocean and a glass of champagne …”
Maybe a few conversation starters with your partner could be to discuss
- Two values that you and your partner hold dearly.
- Something in your childhood that you would like to change.
- An achievement that you are most proud of.
- Three treasured moments in your life.
- A sad episode that you find it difficult to talk about.
- A shortcoming that is important for your partner to be aware of.
Patrick Moloney 29/10/17